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vengefulduck | 1 year ago

Assuming that living with your parents is a safe option which for many, especially LGBT people it isn’t.

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constantcrying|1 year ago

Nothing makes life harder on yourself than making your parents hate you. It is also extremely hard to do, no your parents disagreeing with you isn't a good reason to never see them again.

chaoskanzlerin|1 year ago

There is nuance to this. Being queer and living with a homophobic family means suppressing your personality in everyday life in myriad ways, way beyond "being gay". Moving out removes this tension entirely, well without any need to abandon one's family altogether.

darth_avocado|1 year ago

> It is also extremely hard to do

It is surprisingly easy to do. You clearly come from stable families, but parents can hate their children for a lot of things: being different (everything from sexual orientation to not being social), being not like them, being exactly like them, not getting the grades they hoped for, not babysitting your 5 siblings because you had to go to school, not bringing in money, costing them too much money by existing, not being a doctor in a family of doctors....

More often, it's not the children who don't want to see their parents, its the other way around.

legacynl|1 year ago

> making your parents hate you

IDK if I'm misunderstanding, but it sounds like you think LGBT youth make their parents hate them by being LGBT? In my opinion it's the duty of the parents to foster a proper loving relation with their children.

> no your parents disagreeing with you isn't a good reason to never see them again.

I think that depends on what you disagree about.

iteria|1 year ago

My parents disagree with me about having a job and my own money. Yeah fuck'em. I don't miss them at all