[frenchman99]

I agree with you. And at the same time, I often feel like it is more difficult being heard when being nuanced. It seems like what gets discussed most are strong opinions.

[josephg]

Yep. It’s easier for a simple message to be carried by the wind.

But the process of growing up is one of increasing capacity for discernment. Ie, you learn more subtlety discerning when thing A or B is a better idea in any given moment. Will a hard or soft approach work better? Use my old tools or learn this new framework? Make a long term or short term decision here?

It’s hard to communicate because this kind of learning takes a lifetime to accumulate.

[onehair]

The hardest part is when you're being nuanced and people misconstrue it as you being indecisive xD

[exe34]

could you give an example? my approach is usually something like "I've come up with three options here, I think the first two are equally good, I'm mentioning the third for completeness, but I don't think we should do it because...."

[outofpaper]

Maybe we need to work on Sound bites

- The only thing every project has in common is that they are all different projects.

- Success in one project doesn't guarantee success in another.

[tpmoney]

My approach is to have strong opinions (weakly held), and ask if people have objections to the tradeoffs. That tends to keep the focus on specific reasons to choose a given path rather than you and someone else just having different preferences. Doesn't always work, but it's a lot easier than fighting over whether option A or option B is just universally better.

[_heimdall]

I've definitely seen that happen, and in my opinion its just a sign of bad culture or bad leadership. That's not to say its toxic or widespread, maybe its just a poorly run meeting, but nuance should be a focus of any important discussion rather than the voice that goes ignored.

[bloppe]

Depends on your audience. Maybe you need to dumb it down for some people sometimes. That's life. I just try to stay in situations where the audience appreciates nuance if I can

[mattgreenrocks]

Yeah, so it presents a real conundrum. If you read the article, then he still presents arguments in favor of microservices.

> I often feel like it is more difficult being heard when being nuanced. It seems like what gets discussed most are strong opinions.

I really resent this phenomenon. It traps us in poor local maxima because our systems optimize for engagement over actual development of complex, nuanced opinions. It feels like the dopamine-addled end up indirectly pulling the levers on how we talk even if they're less interested in the actual craft.