[tamad]

I don’t think this is a derailment. You’re asking how you might raise your kids in a way that promotes their well-being, probably contrary to the achievement culture discussed in the article.

A nice model to consider for well-being is “PERMA” from Marty Seligman, a pioneer of positive psychology. The letters stand for five foundations of well-being: positive emotion, engagement (including flow), relationships, meaning, and accomplishments.

From this model, I would explore questions like these:

- Are there schools near your family that focus on mastery rather than performance, and approach education more holistically?

- Do you and your SO have a community of friends that live nearby and have similarly aged children?

- Do you and your SO already find a higher meaning in your lives in ways that can be modeled and conveyed to your children?

I’m a developmental psych guy, so if you want more detail it might be helpful to know roughly how old your kids are or if there’s a developmental stage you’re more or less concerned about. Anyway, maybe this gives you something to chew on.