[Valakas_]

There is a condition called aleythimia. People who have been emotionally neglected have not been mirrored and told what they're feeling "You look exhausted" "It's normal to feel guilty in that situation." "I understand that you feel so conflicted."

I talk with people in this circle, and in fact, giving a name to emotion, making it a concrete thing, instead of just this bodily feeling and cloud in the mind, gives it relief and allows it to be fully expressed and understood. It makes each emotion a separate entity in a sea of previously undefined emotions.

When we talk with people with alexythimia they often say they feel "pain" to describe some discomfort. And in fact they do. But when they realize they are actually feeling guilt, or confusion, or anxiety, which are all uncomfortable, not only you can see them feeling relief, as now it makes sense what they're feeling, but the emotion becomes a specific thing. Confusion becomes identifiable from stress, instead of just being called "Pain" and with this, it can be identified as two separate feelings and not just one. They see now that this feeling of not knowing what to do is a clear different thing than the other one where they feel there is an important event coming and they don't feel prepared for it, instead of both just being uncomfortable.

So imo, the word, "primarily" is doing a lot of heavy lifting there.