[erikw]

In one of my friend groups (consisting of folks in their 20s-30s and including both university students and professionals, mostly in the US) I’ve noticed a cultish obsession with the idea that the “system” is stacked, success is due solely to luck or unfair advantage, there are very limited resources, etc. Alluding to these themes seems to be a significant part of group identity. People even talk about how they actively sabotage their employer’s strategic and tactical goals, and I observe them receiving supportive feedback on this from other folks.

From my perspective, I think that one of the difficulties of being young is not yet knowing what exactly you should be working hard at. And in the knowledge economy where many of us must make significant career changes every few years, kicking off that new trajectory is somewhat analogous to youth. If you are working hard at the wrong thing, it will certainly feel like everything is stacked against you. I see some of my friends doing just this- trying to become something that just isn’t a good fit for them. How do you provide mentorship for people to help them identify what’s the best area to apply their efforts to?