[gtmitchell]

"Just be yourself". Such terrible, useless advice to give to someone who is struggling with dating.

[jalapenos]

I'd even call that non-advice a type of mockery.

Since that's, after all, how everyone starts, obviously the cohort who thereafter asks for advice has found that not enough.

[deterministic]

No it is the right advice. The key is to improve yourself and make yourself more attractive. Accomplish more, work out, become more capable, make more $ etc.

I did that myself by improving my diet, doing kick boxing, get educated, interact more with woman etc. It worked.

If you don’t, you will end up with a partner who loves your fake persona and not you. Forcing you to continue living a fake life. That is not a healthy way to live.

[nopmat]

Mark Twain once said “Be yourself is about the worst advice you can give to some people.”

[coolThingsFirst]

What worked for you then?

[datadrivenangel]

Becoming a cooler, fitter, more interesting version of yourself

[jalapenos]

Move to a better dating market