[screwt]

It's great that you slip into this mode automatically.

For me, the reframing of "goal" to "quest" helps enormously with this change of mode. A "goal" is something I hope/want to achieve in future - but today I'm busy with day-to-day chores etc. A "quest" however is something you are on. So if I'm on a quest to do X, of course I need to do something toward it every day.

[smeej]

For some reason I have a hard time with "quest" because it seems to have an endpoint. I'm not "on a quest to hike all the mountains." I'm just the kind of person for whom that kind of thing eventually happens because it's normal.

It very well might be my "fear of success" issue though. I don't have a fear of being different than I was before. That slips in under "part of the normal process of growth and change."

But being a person who's on a quest? Who might eventually achieve the thing? That lands differently, and in a way that prevents me from actually doing it.

I think my successes have to slide in under the radar so I don't sabotage them.