[nrr]

"A depressed person often wants to be depressed ..." I'd caution against expressing it this way. It's less a want and more a ground state.

I am one of these depressives, and I definitely do not want to spend all day in bed. It is, however, a ground state that takes an amazing amount of energy to escape, so my usual inclination is to conserve energy and not escape. It may outwardly look to non-depressives as a strong desire to spend the day in bed and away from the world except through whatever portal the Internet gives us, but it's my experience that having someone to come by to help with the parts of living that fatigue me is direly, overwhelmingly underrated.

And, like, it isn't often chores or errands that are the most helpful. (Indeed, when my depression saps me enough, I find that just going on a cleaning binge is a cheap way to recover for a while.) No, rather, it's stupid shit like having someone make decisions for me so that I can get un-stuck from whatever mental hell I've fallen into. The challenge is usually articulating which decisions I need made because merely unpacking them has a high energy cost.

It's only when I've gotten a handle on the fatigue each day that I'm truly able to get moving.

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> ground state

I often find myself reaching for the term "anticipatory anhedonia": When someone doesn't feel happiness looking forward to things that are coming.

Oh, they might be happy during the activity, and they might abstractly know that they'll enjoy it a lot, the gut-reaction during the planning phase is that it's a to-do item that might be a big hassle.