[croutonwagon]

I would say part of it too is nature (vs nurture). Those same cousins never developed that propensity into adulthood at all. And its likely that was due to how well they were parented overall.

Myself had a bit of a different household and those things I had to learn on my own. The lack of restrictions made me grow up a bit sooner. Neither really right or wrong. But some people dont have the best self control (even in adulthood). Ive brought that up with the WFH conversations here. Theres bias here because i would wager many are high performers and have great self control, but working with people I have noticed many adult colleagues arent that well self disciplined and putting them in the office setting does help.