[arzke]

> “You have to listen to your gut. If something feels off, you’ve gotta listen to what your body is telling you and get out. If you don’t, you’ll end up regretting it.”

> Next time you’re feeling some discomfort in a situation, slow down and take a deep breath. Check in with yourself. Where is your edge? What level of discomfort feels challenging but not overwhelming right now? Can you lean in and try something difficult? Or have you already leaned in too far and need to back off a little? Act accordingly. As the situation progresses, keep checking in with yourself.

So the difference seems to be the notion that "a little discomfort is okay". You still need to place your tolerable discomfort cut-off point somewhere, right before it feels overwhelming.

I kind of agree with the general content of the post, but find it somewhat simplistic with a focus on oneself. I see conversation more like a dance, a delicate balance where you should be aware of your own feelings, but also other people's. Some people feel comfortable over-sharing with someone they barely met, which can create quite intense discomfort. My understanding is that this tends to be more likely in people who struggle setting boundaries in their relationships. I'd assume some neurodivergent people would struggle with this as well, as they might find it challenging to sense this balance.

[ileonichwiesz]

> I'd assume some neurodivergent people would struggle with this as well, as they might find it challenging to sense this balance.

Yeah, this is useless because it relies on the assumption that people’s level of comfort/discomfort is a rational thing that’s consistent among different people. It treats that complex barely-understood neurological system like it’s a barometer outside your window.

I’ve been dealing with an anxiety disorder for much of my life (and it’s not rare!), and I’ve explicitly had to learn NOT to trust my gut. My gut can randomly tell me I’m in mortal danger as I’m shopping for groceries or answering an email. I’m not listening to that thing.

[Rzor]

It's also no small feat to ignore your senses like that. I feel that any small thought can become a storm at any moment and hijack my well being into another reality. It's crippling and very tiring. No kidding you had to "learn".

[foo_foo_can_do]

agree, and a caveat to all 'trust your gut' type advice should be that you need to first deal with any psychological issues before you can even perceive your own genuine intuition. in my experience anxiety in fact stems from being out of touch with intuition, and it takes a more complex process to re-learn how to be natural than any pithy advice can describe.

[nuancebydefault]

For me the difficulty is very often that my gut says I can share almost anything with anybody. Especially when in case of one on one conversations. So my conscious brain needs to put regularly a break on it. If I give in too much, I usually get a silent reaction and sometimes even people avoiding my conversation.

Indeed the 'conversation is like a dance' feels like a more correct expression of reality.