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Only you can decide where your moral compass points, and how far you're prepared to go in an opposing direction for wealth and/or fame.

I think most people will feel better working in a position that is aligned with their values, but a lot of people can also tolerate/justify a surprising amount of cognitive dissonance in aid of supporting themselves and their families.

Whether it's convincing oneself that one's work will only be used militarily against baddies that deserve it, that the people one is putting out of work with automation/AI will fall on their feet into much better jobs, or that manipulating people into spending more time in one's app is actually a public service because the app itself does some good, people will find ways of compartmentalising and living with what they do since the alternative of having a family less well provided for is seen as the bigger failure. "Suck it up princess and get on with it, you can't bear the weight of the whole world on your shoulders, and you've got kids who need to go to college"...

My main advice would be to try not to stray so far from your moral compass that you can no longer recognise yourself. No amount of therapy or donating to charity is going to fix you at that point.

I'm really glad there are people like yourself out there, asking questions like these. I wish more were like you, and I wish you good luck and happiness whatever you choose to do.