[jaybhum]

"If I told you, 'I went into my backyard, I made this pill. It's amazing. It's free. If you take it, it'll actually improve your health, make you feel better, improve your performance at work, improve your grades, boost your immunity,' you'd be like, 'Sign me up. I'll take that tomorrow.'" It turns out that's what social connection is. Just a little connection can go a long way in keeping us healthy.

[hansonkd]

> It's free

Free in terms of monetary costs but not free in terms of absolute costs for example time and emotional depletion.

For some people they see social connections as more risks that they can possibly lose something and be hurt if things don't work out or they are rejected.

And in general social connections require some type of mutual benefit so it is necessary to "give" as you "get".

Then another layer are that social connections in general need a reason. Is it a club, hobby, job, etc. which takes time and energy.

These "costs" are not universal and vary from person to person.

All these things can be overcome, but it is also important to look at the other side because the reason that people prefer just buying a pill to fix their problems is that the above mentioned costs for them are greater than the price of alternatives like medication, social media, gaming, etc.

[more_corn]

Surely there have been relationships in your life that were net positive? Was your mother caring and loving when you were young? Did you ever have a best friend? Ever been in love?

The easiest way to have a positive relationship is to just be the good friend you’d want for yourself. The thoughtful lover you’d want to be with, the sort of sibling you wish you had.

Doing these things costs you nothing. You might even find some positive emotions when you do them.

[bubblic]

True that. Especially if you layer the fact that people are less used to socializing so the very act of it becomes emotionally taxing

[drivingmenuts]

If you gave me that spiel, I would assume you were trying to scam me.

[TuringTourist]

People you don't know are boring. Most people are full of surprises, unique insights, traits, and perspectives, if given enough time in the right setting. An increasing rarity at this point.

[recursive]

Some of them? Or all of them? Are you boring?

[jmkni]

You just have to find the right people - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yYCz06bS380

[tarboreus]

Misanthropes are boring.

[AznHisoka]

“In groups, they are terrible. As individuals, you can see the universe in them”