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nkingsy | 1 year ago

The word swinger wasn't mentioned once. Probably because the swingers are just quietly enjoying their lives under the radar.

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t-writescode|1 year ago

I think it might also be because "Swinging" is a word from a previous era and some/many of the young LGBTQ+ people are against learning from their elders.

Swinging is a very clear example of ENM.

indrora|1 year ago

> young LGBTQ+ people are against learning from their elders

No, there's a missing generation. As (previously) one of those, my generation is now the "elders", and we had to learn in a strange, weirdly sheltered way. Our elders were dead or hiding. The topics were taboo, the representation garbage, and the content online? Often blocked in the place we had internet access.

I do a lot of teaching to my younger queer friends. Sometimes I have to do a lot of research on a topic before I can give an answer.

In addition, Swingers weren't talked about in any part of my growing up. It wasn't until as an adult I looked at my partner and said "Oh, they're having a key party" at an exhibit of a model 50s-era home in the midwest.

nkingsy|1 year ago

Google seems to think monogamish is the new word for it, but that is a really confusing word (I thought it meant you can cuddle puddle with your friends).

e40|1 year ago

ENM?

giraffe_lady|1 year ago

> some/many of the young LGBTQ+ people are against learning from their elders.

Well almost a complete generational cohort of their elders is simply missing. They died of aids in the 80s and 90s.