[fairity]

Why would it matter? OP is experiencing an undesirable outcome, and assigning blame for the problem seems besides the point when the main goal is to change the outcome.

[blueflow]

Because you can reverse the situation and criticize them for being offended by everything and difficult for you to work with.

[gosub100]

you can, only if you have the critical amount of self confidence, appetite for conflict, lack the fear of losing them, and/or have another group of people who you can substitute after their loss. Thats a big ask for all but the most socially endowed of us.

[jimkleiber]

If one can't figure out the causes of certain outcomes, how does one change the outcomes?