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whitefang | 1 year ago

Yes that would be ideal but with age friends are fewer and more busy.

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Otek|1 year ago

friends as sole outlet for deep issues can strain relationships and offer biased advice—they’re a support system, not a substitute for professional, objective therapy

worthless-trash|1 year ago

I always find this train of thought hard to believe, as a species we've been through much harder times with more trauma.

How did we evolve to need a professional objective therapy instead of strong support systems.

ramon156|1 year ago

I've been told that its just different, not harder. Then again I'm only 23, so I have no idea.

meowfly|1 year ago

It's harder.

1. Older adults are less open. I wouldn't just start texting someone from work about my favorite bands after knowing them for a couple weeks. In college that was common.

2. Children and family responsibilities are primary relationships, while in college friends are primary relationships.

3. Energy levels drop and responsibility rises as you age; limiting what you want to do.

4. There is a light social pressure to "act your age" that has a small governing influence to adult relationships.

I have good friendships, but almost all of my adult friendships are from college and highschool. Hanging out is usually a set activity like hopping on a game, grabbing lunch, or maybe biking, golf, etc on a sunday. Work is where I meet people and all of those relationships tend to be tainted by the professional relationship.