[jeromie]

I can't recommend this video enough. I wish this research and understanding was available when I was a kid.

I figured out systems and tools to succeed in school and work (I was largely a C student testing in the top 0.1% of CA school kids on the standardized tests -- found that tidbit cleaning out my mom's things).

It was the rejection I experienced in peer friendships that scarred me deeply, and as someone who has been unmedicated into my 40s, still impacts my adult friendships and professional relationships.

ADHD: Essential Ideas for Parents - Dr. Russell Barkely https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YSfCdBBqNXY

Some key tidbits to sell you (and your nephew's parents) on spending the full two hours with this:

"... it also helps families to understand some of the other life course risks 50 to 70% of ADHD children are utterly rejected by close friendships by second grade it is in fact one of the more devastating consequences of this disorder is this inability to make and keep close sustained friendships with others their children and it is heartbreaking for parents to see this happening that their child is not as liked as other children that the sleepovers the going to the movies and the other social events in which other children celebrate their peer relationships are shut off for this child why is it there the single best predictor of peer rejection is that symptom the emotional impulsiveness friends forgive you your distractability your forgetfulness your working memory problems and even your restlessness they will not forgive your anger your hostility the quickness with which you emote to other people because it is offensive it is socially costly so now we can begin to understand the numerous social problems that ADHD children are prone to because it arises from this aspect of the inhibitory deficit"

"explains the road rage during driving the job dismissals which are not the result of inattentiveness but of being too quick to anger too quick to express raw emotion in the workplace of which employers are not tolerant especially if it occurs with a customer and it also explains to us the marital difficulties and the parenting difficulties these children may be prone to because the single best predictor of marital problems in the adult with ADHD is not distractability it is emotion so we can begin to paint a better picture of understanding ADHD and its life course risks by understanding the nature of the inhibitory problem..."