[NilMostChill]

> The author definitely saw it as a targeted attack that, when it failed, caused the attacker to switch tactics to intentionally cause harm.

Saying "someone or something" is generic and also accurate it doesn't explicitly imply a specific person or targeting, though I'll concede it could be interpreted that way.

As interesting a side conversation as this is it isn't my original point.

As i said in my original reply:

> It being common doesn't mean it's OK, it also doesn't mean people aren't allowed to be upset by it.

> "You probably need to calm down a bit" is dismissive and condescending.

It's entirely possible to explain context to someone without being dismissive of their feelings on the subject.