[fathomdeez]

I go through this with my wife for every party we throw. She wants the house cleaned, table set, food spread ready, seasonal cocktails mixed, furniture moved around, decorations just so, etc.

I’m like here’s a giant thing of ice cold booze have fun.

[floren]

I know this struggle, and the best I've been able to do is to push every time for limited scope. Let's just get pizzas instead of cooking 3 different mains and having a cheese plate, 4 bowls of chips, etc. Social media has really done a number on people (see also those omnipresent balloon arches)

[sjducb]

Cleaning your house before a party is a reasonable ask.

[bluefirebrand]

It reallllllly depends on how dirty the place is

Why clean it thoroughly both before and after a big party? Why not just after?