[smitelli]

I gotta say, I don't have the right personality traits to enjoy this kind of personal attention a lot of the time.

I've had experiences where the counter staff at my daily breakfast place started to recognize me and know what "usual" my order was going to be without my having to say it... and it really weirded me out more than anything else.

Sometimes I just want to be a faceless nobody, forgotten day after day by the businesses I visit and the public spaces I navigate.

[JumpCrisscross]

> I don't have the right personality traits to enjoy this kind of personal attention a lot of the time

Have friends who work at the Four Seasons. This—low service interaction—is a common type of personalised attention patrons want.

I don’t think there is a social media cue for it. But even as someone who’s fairly extroverted, I got a note indicating I should be left alone if dining alone and reading.

[ufmace]

Yeah I get what you mean. I think I'd be a lot more weirded out than delighted if a restaurant I was going to stalked my social media (such as it exists at all), attempted to deduce things I would like from it, and presented me those things at a meal.

[mingus88]

Yeah I’m heavily introverted and feel the same way. It establishes a kind of social pressure that if I fail to hold up my side of the relationship I just get anxious

[satvikpendem]

If you go so often that people remember you, I mean, what do you expect, that they somehow block the memory of you from their mind?