Aren't dating expectations always contradictory for both genders, by definition? If they were not, human race was to become very homogenous with almost no variety (because everyone will start having kids with "just evidently the best" partners), and that's a path to extinction. Most complex species instinctively self-protect against that.
> Aren't dating expectations always contradictory for both genders, by definition?
Are they? All people tend to want the same things. We want to be seen, understood, appreciated, affirmed, trusted. We want to feel safe, be valued, connect to others and be happy.
What I want in a date is to help the other person achieve some of those things. What better thing is there?
"Marginalization" is a systemic issue; its reality isn't dependent on anecdotes or your particular happiness with your lot in life. You've got to look at differential statistics between men and women to see if either (or both!) are marginalized. College attendance, suicide rates, life span, discrimination by the healthcare system, happiness with work, number of hours worked, affliction by drugs and alcohol, callbacks for jobs, algorithmic discrimination...
This has real "I bought a house in 1970 working a blue collar job, I don't know why people are complaining about a housing crisis" energy to it. Should these boys just stop eating avocado toast to afford to go on a date as well?
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Are they? All people tend to want the same things. We want to be seen, understood, appreciated, affirmed, trusted. We want to feel safe, be valued, connect to others and be happy.
What I want in a date is to help the other person achieve some of those things. What better thing is there?
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