[metalrain]

I've been dating recently and I think planning dates is mostly fantasizing.

I plan the time, place and activities, imagine things to discuss, how I feel, how other person might feel. Everything feels well thought out and detailed, unpacked.

But it never realizes quite like that, plans get cancelled, places are closed, feelings have changed, discussions are sidetracked or don't feel right. It's all revealed to be a fantasy.

I don't mean you shouldn't try to plan, but unpacking can also be fantasy as much as the packed thing is.