In the period they mention, I've gone from heavy socializing to nearly none.
It's a lot of reasons. My kids are grown. My need for new customers is sharply lower.
I've decoupled my self-esteem from societal expectations. This killed the carrot for a lot of my social behavior - like the need for small talk.
My resistance to things fades with age. Like the ever increasing heat. My tolerance of traffic. My tolerance of crowds - especially when it's enhanced by cluelessness (eg:conversations in choke points).
Plus I live with my 5 adult sons (thanks 4-income economy!) and we get on well.
Here where an 85° dewpoint is common and the 13th month of summer is the worst, heatstroke is a risk - day and night. Some unexpected outdoor behavior is expected.
The other day I was strolling through a sketchy and recently abandoned apartment complex on the way to a city park, with seemingly nobody around, and a scraggly guy suddenly was booking it at full sprint down the sidewalk right at me with a drill or nail-gun or something in his hands. I'm like "well, this guy is either completely insane and running from hallucinated demons, and perhaps I look like one to him, or he's on the run from a criminal offense or otherwise dangerous encounter after breaking in to the buildings..."
One of the big reasons is that bars are dead. They used to suck a lot of time out of the regular working populace, and the regulars at bars are almost exclusively boomers (or older), and maybe a few alcoholics. I go to a lot of local bars and it's almost always the same story from the bartenders about traffic over the past 10 years. Even the cheap ones that aren't flagrantly overpriced (and many/most are now) have very little new traffic.
WarOnPrivacy|7 months ago
It's a lot of reasons. My kids are grown. My need for new customers is sharply lower.
I've decoupled my self-esteem from societal expectations. This killed the carrot for a lot of my social behavior - like the need for small talk.
My resistance to things fades with age. Like the ever increasing heat. My tolerance of traffic. My tolerance of crowds - especially when it's enhanced by cluelessness (eg:conversations in choke points).
Plus I live with my 5 adult sons (thanks 4-income economy!) and we get on well.
onecommentman|7 months ago
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cocooning_%28behaviour%29
sleepyguy|7 months ago
bhasinanant|7 months ago
WarOnPrivacy|7 months ago
My socializing was lessening every year before Covid. Now society is in sync with me.
d00mB0t|7 months ago
WarOnPrivacy|7 months ago
Fade_Dance|7 months ago
One of the big reasons is that bars are dead. They used to suck a lot of time out of the regular working populace, and the regulars at bars are almost exclusively boomers (or older), and maybe a few alcoholics. I go to a lot of local bars and it's almost always the same story from the bartenders about traffic over the past 10 years. Even the cheap ones that aren't flagrantly overpriced (and many/most are now) have very little new traffic.