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mathiaspoint | 6 months ago

Do not go to college if you have to spend any money on it. If you do that's everyone telling that you don't belong there and you'll have a hard life if you ignore them.

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nostrebored|6 months ago

This is a take that maybe makes sense for wealthy children or the upper middle class?

I paid for school (admittedly not that much, I stayed in state and lived in relatively poor accommodations). I’m also the only one of my siblings to not be a felon or dead before 45. Life is often a game of deltas: given the same or similar starting conditions, where did you wind up?

If you keep making delta positive outcomes, eventually you’ll wind up somewhere interesting.

kashunstva|6 months ago

> Do not go to college if you have to spend any money on it.

I cannot think of a single person in my extended family across three generations for whom that heuristic is true. I don’t doubt that it applies in some situations. I can’t tell you what the actual ROI is; but “belonging there” seems a little encumbered by assumptions about the diversity of ways and timings in which young people develop academically and emotionally.

culturestate|6 months ago

> Do not go to college if you have to spend any money on it.

“If your family isn’t well-off or you didn’t work hard enough in high school to get any scholarships, college isn’t for you” is certainly an interesting take, and it seems like a much too simplistic heuristic.

mathiaspoint|6 months ago

If your parents are paying for it that's still spending money on it.