[isodude]

Only give positive feedback when they are doing the thing you want them too. Absence of positive feedback is as effective as negative feedback, with the positive effect of extracting the change you want instead of placing the change upon the person.

[croes]

That sound a lot like manipulation. Like you train dogs.

[isodude]

Is it though? I would imagine the person wanting to change instead being forced. Where would you draw the line?