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I thought I was clear enough about this already, but clearly not: I encourage anyone who believes there's a bug with Caddy to report it to us on GitHub, where bug reports belong, where we can have focused discussion about it and see it to its natural conclusion. I do not discriminate bug reports based on who makes it.

An HN thread is not the place to report a bug. Nor do I think it's fair to form opinions about project maintenance (which doesn't happen on HN) based on comments in HN.

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e40|4 months ago

I say this with some trepidation. I certainly don't want to inflame this.

First, never used Caddy. I have no dog in this fight. I do manage a (closed source) project (which is decades old).

After reading this entire thread and all replies in all branches (I didn't vote on any of the comments), I think it would have been better for you not to reply at all. It would have done less damage to you (the negative emotions it brought out, the perception of others) and no one would remember that top-level comment. It would have been at the bottom of the page, an insignificant utterance. You elevated it, by protesting too much (I won't quote that famous line, but you get the idea).

And I must say you reminded me of my younger self, in the way you wouldn't let go of the issue and wouldn't let others have the last word. I've learned that this behavior is definitely self destructive and unproductive. The trigger was something that lived in me. It was never, I learned, about them. We choose how we respond. I've found one thing to work for me:

When an online discussion makes me emotional, I write a response in a text editor (not in the place where the comment is) and I let it sit for a few hours. Then, I do something completely different. I almost never post that comment, when I return to it, but I sometimes post something much softer. Mostly, I remove all emotion from the comment. Emotions are triggers for others, after all.

Why did I write so many words on this seemingly trivial online dispute? I hope I can help in some way, because I saw myself in your comments. Take them for what they are, me trying to help.