Sometimes I wonder if I’m using my phone, or if it’s using me.
I know things like notifications and vibrations are designed to grab my attention, but the phone always seems to know exactly when I’m at my weakest.
The moment I feel even a little bored or empty, my finger just taps open that familiar app before I even realize it.
Have any of you found ways to break out of this cycle of being led around by your phone?
rstuart4133|4 months ago
It's always both. The phone is a doorway. On one side is you trying to exploit the resources on the other side. On the other side is the rest of the world, trying to exploit you.
Tade0|4 months ago
Bottom line up front: the way out is to set aside some time for a menial task that isn't mentally taxing.
Screens are a particularly effective means of avoiding processing one's emotions. Those, of course, don't go away by themselves so if you don't take time to deal with them, you create a dependency.
The moment before going to sleep is typically when piled up emotions and intrusive thoughts return, so that's also when the temptation to set them aside is the greatest.
Resisting that temptation, but giving in to it eventually is dangerous, because next time the signal is stronger.