[anonyfox]

Seeing the other comments I feel like the luckiest moment of my life was meeting my future wife when I was at school with 16 and having been together since for 20+ years, through higher education and kids and house mortgage and all. Zero drama, mutual respect and affection, both still preserving some independence to maintain a „self“, good double income.

Might sound stupid, but this major life area being just a rock solid fundament frees up so much energy my peers still struggle with nowadays quite often it’s insane in hindsight. Everyday life costs are lower, some risk taking is possible when someone has your back unconditionally and even supports it (as long as not going reckless), and a secure home base to return to is something I guess even money can’t easily buy. Short of being born already rich I guess that’s a cheat code with similar small odds, and I appreciate it.

Then the „business opportunities“ become just something way more relaxed. Not identity level validation attempts or despair to get into a better life. Which again allows better judgement calls and reintroduces more fun and creativity into many things.

Just my 2c for perspective

[SeriousM]

I met my wife also at school at 16y and we're so glad and happy to be with each other since, 25y+. You put it in the right words:

> Zero drama, mutual respect and affection, both still preserving some independence to maintain a „self".

Just the income is from me alone which frees her up to have enough time for our kids.

Having such a long time and deep relationship is quite rare, I guess.