[sleazebreeze]

Schmoozers learned grit and grind? That's opposite of my experience and observations.

What role do you play in the educational neglect? I am not sure I understand the decline here.

[BeetleB]

> What role do you play in the educational neglect?

Not the person you're responding to, but that's uncalled for.

There are many variables that go into a child's development. The parents are merely one of them. They can do their best and things can still go south.

[lurking_swe]

from my understanding of educational outcomes, the BIGGEST factor in a child’s success in school is their home life. At least for K-12. Multiple studies come to this conclusion.

Obviously “home life” encompasses many things like parental involvement, stability of family relationships, socioeconomic status, etc. And it’s not the only factor of course.

So the question is hardly uncalled for IMO. Could have been worded in a less accusatory tone though! The person was pretty rude.

[drivebyhooting]

145 -> 120 IQ decline

Because I can’t access good schools and teachers. Because I didn’t schmooze to the admissions directors and other gate keepers.

I should’ve worn better clothes, driven a Porsche, and displayed the right shibboleths. Except that even now I’m too immature and stupid to know what they are.

[diogenescynic]

>Except that even now I’m too immature and stupid to know what they are.

This is the bigger problem, not the type of car or clothes you drive. I dress like a schlub and drive a Toyota and don't feel any of the social pressures you're talking about. I think it's in your head.

>145 -> 120 IQ decline

You're also putting way way too much emphasis on this test. The methodology of IQ tests is also entirely questionable. I'd hardly be judging myself as a parent based on this.