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I've seen work environments that are chaotic, and people are expected to deliver things that they can't deliver without navigating and taming the chaos to do their bidding.

If course that's stressful. You can't expect individuals to tame the organization.

I think some parts of IT have deteriorated into anarchy with tyrannic leadership.

Sure, you can have anarchy. But then don't expect any particular timelines.

You can hire armies of people. But then don't expect one corner of the org to be able to deliver something that involves talking to everyone.

You can't have the cake and eat it too.