[drBonkers]

> it's probably time to relearn those (the upper classes never stopped using them)

Can you tell me more about these? I’m actively trying to find ways to cultivate my community.

[smashem]

Face-to-face social gatherings - parties, dinners, clubs, meetups

Membership organizations - country clubs, professional associations, alumni networks, charitable boards

Personal introductions and referrals - being introduced through mutual acquaintances

Cultural and civic participation - involvement in local institutions, community organizations, religious groups

[piglet_bear]

Ha, I can only wish. Maybe true if you live in NYC, SF, Berlin or London.

But most of these don't exist or help with socializing and making new connections where I live (medium sized European university city).

Everyone here only hangs out with their family and school/university mates and that's it. Any other available events are either for college students or lonely retirees but nothing in between.

[nradov]

There are also private group chats open only to selected elite and wealthy people. When you see several prominent people suddenly make similar public statements on a particular issue there's a good chance they used those group chats behind the scenes to coordinate messaging.