[izend]

I have had this discussion with my wife, men need activities more than women to bond. My wife can make friends just by randomly running into other women at events or my daughter's activities.

[heresie-dabord]

The concept of a social cabin or "men's shed" has been discussed before on HN.

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=38158616

The phenomenon began in Australia but it has spread to other countries.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Men's_shed

[bitexploder]

Basically the whole point of the Freemasonry fraternity as well. Male only. It is dressed up with some altruistic goals and rituals, but it is a social club for men essentially.

[xorcist]

> men need activities more than women to bond

Frankly, I don't know why more women doesn't center their social life around activities.

It's an excellent idea. Seriously, what's not to like?

[y0eswddl]

Honestly, as a non-sports loving male, it makes it much harder to build male friendships.

Not that its impossible, but the majority* of men get together to watch, play, or talk about sports the majority of the time... whereas I'm perfectly fine just hanging out where hanging out is the activity!

I eventually just stopped trying to invite most of my guy friends out for 1-1 meals, etc.

* hyperbole

[skeeter2020]

This is generally known to be true for men. We have a much harder time connecting socially without some sort of shared activity or action. The OP isn't trying to project on to you.

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S109051382...

https://psychcentral.com/health/didactic-memory?utm_source=c...

>> I have no data that it has to do with gender or sex, and why would it matter? The needs aren't predictable based on gender/sex

not sure what you're trying to say here, but you seem to have taken a very mild, very general statement incredbly personal.

[rapidfl]

It is kinda crazy someone can be so triggered by something so simple as men starting/joining a club.

[browningstreet]

It might change how a man and a woman discuss (or should discuss) how they might relieve their sense of isolation and poor social life.

Especially if, say, that man and woman always do things together, but one of them is starting to feel like they need a little bit of something else.

[j45]

Why does anyone need to be defensive about what someone has found for them?

For example, studies have shown that men who decide to isolate themselves to be "family men" die earlier at age 58.

It might not need to be a pub, but having a club house to do pretty much anything is enormously beneficial to the human brain to have positive social interaction.

We get to decide our own social interaction.

The world is not responsible to not triggering us.