[contagiousflow]

Alternatively, think about asking the women in your life what they want

[dotancohen]

Of course. I think that communication is the key to a successful relationship.

However Henry Ford has a well known quote about what people think they want vs what they really want. For that matter, think about how you would answer a question about what you want, vs what you really value to experience in a relationship.

[sofixa]

While this is generally good advice, it only works if you have women you're close with, at that level, already. If the only women you know are work colleagues, you can't go around asking them for advice on dating (depends on your relationship with them of course, but usually, not work appropriate).

[contagiousflow]

Perhaps that is part of the problem. Talking to women outside of romantic interest might be a good first step