[jmathai]

It’s great advice.

If you can be intentional going in to a conversation then I think the chances to serving the other person through listening becomes much higher.

It’s truly a gift…offering someone your time and attention. Possibly the most valuable gift you can give - I don’t mean that facetiously.

The Gottmans talk about bids for attention. It’s random comments inviting the other person to engage.

This sounds really similar.

[KolibriFly]

Yet it's simple, but not easy, which is usually a sign it's pointing at something real