[hnbad]

> Humans are wired to be egocentric. When we hear something related to a past experience, it triggers memories and associations — which we then want to talk about. Shifting the attention from her to me. This is my default state when I'm not focused. I'm not really listening. I'm just waiting for my turn to speak.

On a completely unrelated note, many autistic people express compassion by sharing similar experiences to communicate "I understand how you feel because I can relate to your experience".

I guess the author is a good example for why this tends to upset people (and especially allistic/non-autistic people).

On an also completely unrelated note, the example phrases/questions the author gives at the end read like having a conversation with ELIZA.