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I am a listening trainer, and have taken over 1,500 people through a basic session in active listening. But that said, I agree with you that what matters is having a good relationship, and that involves using different communication skills at different times.

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I listen as part of my life and work, too. I've been training people since 1995. I am also a psychology and social science enthusiast.

The listening class I took in 1988 was one of the most helpful classes I have ever taken. I appreciate and use active listening. But listening is a complex process that goes far beyond mere absorption of information.

Instead of demonizing the ego, which is a tired and reductionist trope, let's appreciate the roles that self-image, self-care, and self-sharing play in that process.