[maybewhenthesun]

It is possible of course that the highways you drive are just too busy and the max speed is actually set too high for how busy the road is. That happens more than you'd want because lowering the max of a highway is always an unpopular thing to, even if it's needed.

Still, I tend to find that people underestimate the danger of short distances. Often it's just better to accept a 100 cars going in front of you than to shrug off following someone at 1.5 seconds. It can go well for years because crashes are rare, but when you are in a crash you will be royally screwed when you don't have the reaction distance needed.

[apparent]

This assumes that you can actually maintain a 3 second follow distance. On some roads, you simply cannot, and an attempt to maintain such a distance leads to increased danger from all the cars that cut in.

Simply put: follow distance is not a unilateral decision.

[maybewhenthesun]

That's what I mean with 'the road is too busy'. If you can't maintain a 3 second distance the speed needs to go down until you can. But you are right that this is sadly not something you can always do on your own.

I'm still convinced people decide way too soon that the 3 second distance is more dangerous. You might be right if people are constantly cutting in the moment you leave a gap, but if someone cuts in every 5 minutes you're still safer off with the gap.