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I don't think that's right. There's a difference between "I hadn't tried to do that"(which would have been the case for me, if not for my wife's wisdom) and "it's hard"

Like literally a starting point could be -where do your friends and coworkers with kids tend to live? Or ask a realtor which parts of town have turned over with young families.

When you are checking out the house you can literally tell which houses have kids and u can ask about it.

The housing market it what it is but you get a very different outcome if you search in a a family friendly town vs not to begin with. Obviously?