[jdironman]

Step one reframe the problem not as an attack or accusation, instead as an observation.

Step two request justification, apply pressure

Step three give them an out by working with you

[KellyCriterion]

How shall to frame if there is actually a problem, which is not only an observation?

[nchmy]

what do you do when they are not operating in good faith?

[vidarh]

One of the effects of communicating this way is that people who are not operating in good faith will tend to quickly out themselves, and often getting them to do that is enough.

[zeroonetwothree]

I hate this sort of communication, it's very manipulative. If I have to justify my decisions to every single person that asks something of me then I couldn't get any work done.