[deanc]

I wrote a little about this here [1]. To summarise, the reality of language learning here is that unless you give up your work it's almost impossible to learn - your only opportunities to learn are evening classes which come at a cost of no social life and are completely impossible if you have kids.

It's easy for people to judge, but move here and try it yourself. It's completely different to e.g. France or Spain.

I also don't agree with one of the other commenters. Finnish is objectively more difficult for most people to learn and has its own origins - entirely different from most languages spoken in Europe. The materials are poorly developed due to the population size and lack of people teaching, and the grammar is absolutely insane.

[1] https://deanclatworthy.com/2026/02/11/integration-isnt-an-ev...

[maccard]

I think I was pretty polite about but I just think you’re looking for excuses. There’s a wild wild difference between being fluent and being able to hold a conversation and go about your day. Nobody is quitting job to learn how to read a menu, or to ask where the batteries are in the supermarket.

> your only opportunities to learn are evening classes which come at a cost of no social life and are completely impossible if you have kids.

One 60 minute class a week is not “no social life”. Having kids is a fair point but at the same time, you’re making time for other things (e.g. blogging) - learning the language of the country you live in should be one of those things. Again, we’re not talking fluency.

I think there’s some good points in your blog post, and your title is catchy - integration isn’t an evening class but the evening class is a prerequisite for integration. If you don’t have one time for one class a week as a prerequisite you don’t have time for any other activities you’d consider “integration” instead

[Hamuko]

Asking your host country to provide you a four-day working week with a fully funded fifth day just for language study is nuts, especially for a highly-paid engineer.

>This would not be charity. It would be an investment.

Why are you unwilling to make that investment? Is your money situation so tight that you can't work a reduced week without the state paying for it?