[jtrn]

I find that there is a big difference between how people that use the fact that they are "A perfectionist OCD person".

Some wield it at a weapon. Some use it as an excuse. Some start with the assumption that it can be harness into something good. And some beat them self up over it uses it to degrade them self.

I think its most helpful to view it as a "know thy self" data point, and not make it someone else problem, but use it as information as to what is ones own challenges that must be kept in check. And if one is relay good, use it for something productive.

[cardanome]

> not make it someone else problem

A great way for cultivating internalized self hatred and burn out.

You approach isn't wrong per se and might be the right one for some people. Some people need to be told to take more personal responsibility

But other people take too much personal responsibility already and only blame themselves and need to be told that they have a disability and it is their right to ask for accessibility and help. That the world is part of the problem.

So it depends.

[jtrn]

The people to who take too much responsibility are not the one that "makes it other peoples problem", unless they are suffering from a dependent personality disorder.

And even then, consider rearranging what you just said in your reply. You are saying: You have to make it someone else problem to avoid self hatred and burnout.

There is a difference in relying and getting support from people, and being a jackass.

[theonething]

I'd love to have a counselor like you. How can I employ your services?