[yosamino]

I worded that poorly.

Yes, that is of course correct. But that means that your clients have to trust you without technical safeguards, that you will not use this to get for certificates for purposes other than XMPP.

Which, in my mind, is a problem if the domain is not used just for XMPP, but lets say for a website as well.

[Joe_Cool]

You should be able to do that via DNS SRV entries.

  _xmpp-client._tcp.domain.tld. TTL IN SRV priority weight port target
  _xmpps-client._tcp.domain.tld. TTL IN SRV priority weight port target

  example:
  _xmpp-client._tcp.not-my-domain.com. 3599 IN SRV 5 0 5222 jabber.my-domain.com.

You could also build a reverse proxy setup. Then you wouldn't need the keys to the SSL certs. But that is probably overkill to run at your client: https://wiki.xmpp.org/web/Tech_pages/XEP-0368

I don't think I have seen a client complain about the cert being for jabber.my-domain.com Which one is giving trouble there?

source: https://datatracker.ietf.org/doc/html/rfc6120

https://wiki.xmpp.org/web/SRV_Records

[yosamino]

> Which one is giving trouble there?

Probably all of them.

Section 5.4.3.1

  > The receiving entity SHOULD choose which certificate to present
  > based on the domainpart contained in the 'to' attribute of the
  > initial stream header (in essence, this domainpart is
  > functionally equivalent to the Server Name Indication defined for
  > TLS in [TLS-EXT]).

and 13.7.2 says

  > Once the identity of the stream peer has been validated, the
  > validating entity SHOULD also correlate the validated identity with
  > the 'from' address (if any) of the stream header it received from the
  > peer.  If the two identities do not match, the validating entity
  > SHOULD terminate the connection attempt (however, there might be good
  > reasons why the identities do not match, as described under
  > Section 4.7.1).

You can manually set a server in most clients, and I don't know how that is generally implemented. I guess that should work then.

But if you serve a certificate for jabber.example.com for a user trying to connect to an account [e-mail] using SRV records then that mismatch will give you at least a certificate warning popup. And for good reason too: How would a user verify that a certificate

abcde.1234.jabber.freshhosting.donut

is valid for the account [e-mail] ?

[singpolyma3]

Yes there is a new DNS challenge coming which will make this even easier.