[da02]

What do your social groups use nowadays?

[wincy]

Similar experience for me and it’s just been replaced with… nothing. My gaming buddies talk on Discord but I just don’t really hear from my aunts and uncles and cousins anymore. It’d be a hassle to even figure out how to contact them. Only 13 people showed up to my high school reunion last year from a graduating class of ~400.

[jrmg]

It’s returned to nothing. Losing touch with people you didn’t contact regularly was the norm until the mid 2000s.

For someone who grew up in the ‘golden years’ of social media, it’s kinda weird to see.

[JKCalhoun]

"…I just don’t really hear from my aunts and uncles and cousins anymore…"

Yeah, actually why I left Facebook a decade ago: finding out what horrible people my relatives were.

[zadikian]

Same. Idk how college communication work now; we had class groups and planned everything over FB events/pages back then.

For friends, I started a few text group chats to stay in touch. It's really annoying because someone has Android and RCS is broken on someone's end. Some also use FB Messenger, but nobody 2 years younger or older than me is on that.

[hu3]

Folks around me use mostly Instagram which ironically is also from Meta.

Zuck is always one step ahead.

[gus_massa]

And as a sibling comment says, also WhatsApp. The guy is always two steps ahead.

[mikepurvis]

I have an IG account that I barely use, whereas my Facebook account I do (regrettably) still spend time on, and have put in the effort to silence/hide the worst of the baity type content that it wants to throw at me.

But interestingly my experience of IG when I do occasionally go on it is similar to what TFA describes: lots of engagement-bait / thirst trap content that I never asked to see but also haven't been around to hide, so I guess the baseline algorithm is just matching me to what others in my demographic bracket have found, um, engaging.

[ghywertelling]

You only ever need a Meta account. The next content format will be brought to your door by Zuck even before you know you need it.

[bojanz]

In my part of Europe it’s all in private WhatsApp groups (one for inner family, one for friends, etc)

[drnick1]

Unfortunately, those are also being surveilled by Meta, so the exodus from Facebook did not help. Consider Signal or a private XMPP server.

[prmoustache]

I am in my mid forties and most people around me seem to use instagram to share memes and stuff + keep contact with rarely seen friends and whatsapp groups for closest more tightknit circles.

I am still on whatsapp but I am planning on nuking my account in september after a large event involving people from various continents. I have no idea if I will be able to stay directly in touch with those people after that, probably not.

I am still unsure if I'll send a message to most of my contacts or if I'll just tell my nuclear family, in laws and closest friends.

[throwway120385]

Can't speak for OP but my spouse has set up a private GroupMe for posting events for a group, but otherwise everyone shares pictures using text messages. We don't post any pictures of our kid where strangers can easily get access to them and we've read the privacy policy of every service we've ever used.

I was considering self-hosting something for a while but she found it more sensible to do it this way.

Every once in a while she logs into Facebook to post something on Marketplace and immediately gets completely sidetracked by their algorithm and design. Then she gets frustrated and we just put the thing she wanted to sell on the corner instead.

[insane_dreamer]

IG, though I didn't bring my FB list over and lost contact with a bunch of people.

I keep my follow list small and regularly unfollow people (not because I don't like them or what they post, but because I've seen enough of that).

Being able to unfollow without drama was something that was problematic in FB.

My siblings and parents have a private WhatsApp group - that's what's used for actual communication.

[sbrother]

Similar experience for me and at this point it's just a collection of private chats. Different groups use different platforms (mine are on iMessage, Whatsapp, Signal, Slack, and.. actually Messenger although apparently Facebook is taking that away soon). It kind of feels like real-name social media is a failed experiment at this point.

[etrautmann]

Almost all chat threads in messages, signal, or occasionally in slack or discord or something else.

[mikepurvis]

Close friends and family: group chats (whatsapp, signal)

Distant friends and extended family: email threads

[JeremyNT]

Not parent, but, depressingly:

  1. Signal
  2. BlueSky
  3. Discord
  4. WhatsApp
  5. SMS

This list is presented in order of preference, and in reverse order of prevalence.

[toomuchtodo]

iMessages (which supports groups well with RCS), Signal, Telegram, GroupMe. Slack, IRC, and Zulip for online groups.

(early 40s)

[mattfrommars]

Personally, it’s all through WhatsApp

[SoftTalker]

Text messages, email. Same as ever.

[HoldOnAMinute]

Nothing, the sharing has stopped.

[snovymgodym]

Group chats on various apps

[yabones]

I'm probably a bit younger than the gp, but I can confidently say that all socializing has moved almost entirely off "social media" and onto group chats. Most people have a dozen or more combinations of friends and families on multiple apps, all trying to replace what was once easy.

I'd love if somebody would make a site based on the ~2010 expectations (not reality) of facebook. Ban any commercial activity and make people pay for it. I just want to talk to my friends and say "happy birthday" to somebody I haven't seen in years, not look at ads and slop posts.

[cvwright]

Several people have tried over the years. We all failed, because it doesn’t work.

The economics don’t work because no one is willing to pay.

The network effect doesn’t exist, because real people don’t post enough to get the flywheel started.

All the dark patterns exist because that is what users reward.

Sucks but it’s true.