> ”It was nice to meet you. If you liked it as well can you arrange it next time? If you didnt like it and I was annoying you please message me later on how I could have been better.”
Sounds like email you get from retailer after online purchase asking to rate a product.
> I agree :D. It's my best formulation to be explicit so far. How would you say it in more natural way to still achieve the same end result?
I think you can't ask it, at least not without self-selecting yourself out of further contact from the majority of people.
> Most people are clueless and will never do anything in return if you're implicitly expecting them to behave in certain manner.
This is somewhat dismissive and maybe warrants some self-reflection. Most people broadcast their feelings extremely visibly and will have expected you to have understood their feelings without having to explicitly explain them to you.
I do not know... I would probably never do that at all. Seems calculated and cold. Well I am not an expert in human connections also it may vary from country to country.
But where I live you may have better results by connecting to people that have similar interests whatever it may be:
-you like soccer? Watch the game with some people.
-you lime playing basketball? Probably there is some group of people you can join in your city.
-do you like old cars? Probably there are some events you can drive to and show whatever you have in your garage.
-do you like W40K or MTG? Probably there is some local club somewhere?
etc.
-if you have kids you just talk to people that have their kids in the same school/preschool/class because it makes it easier
-or if you like just to have a chat start attending local pub of your choice and have a chat to other regulars
This is the usual way of dealing with making friends where I live. But I am bit terrible at making new friends. I have just like 5 friends for +15 years.
onnimonni|4 days ago
Most people are clueless and will never do anything in return if you're implicitly expecting them to behave in certain manner.
closewith|4 days ago
I think you can't ask it, at least not without self-selecting yourself out of further contact from the majority of people.
> Most people are clueless and will never do anything in return if you're implicitly expecting them to behave in certain manner.
This is somewhat dismissive and maybe warrants some self-reflection. Most people broadcast their feelings extremely visibly and will have expected you to have understood their feelings without having to explicitly explain them to you.
npodbielski|4 days ago
-you like soccer? Watch the game with some people.
-you lime playing basketball? Probably there is some group of people you can join in your city.
-do you like old cars? Probably there are some events you can drive to and show whatever you have in your garage.
-do you like W40K or MTG? Probably there is some local club somewhere? etc.
-if you have kids you just talk to people that have their kids in the same school/preschool/class because it makes it easier
-or if you like just to have a chat start attending local pub of your choice and have a chat to other regulars
This is the usual way of dealing with making friends where I live. But I am bit terrible at making new friends. I have just like 5 friends for +15 years.