[onnimonni]

I agree :D. It's my best formulation to be explicit so far. How would you say it in more natural way to still achieve the same end result?

Most people are clueless and will never do anything in return if you're implicitly expecting them to behave in certain manner.

[closewith]

> I agree :D. It's my best formulation to be explicit so far. How would you say it in more natural way to still achieve the same end result?

I think you can't ask it, at least not without self-selecting yourself out of further contact from the majority of people.

> Most people are clueless and will never do anything in return if you're implicitly expecting them to behave in certain manner.

This is somewhat dismissive and maybe warrants some self-reflection. Most people broadcast their feelings extremely visibly and will have expected you to have understood their feelings without having to explicitly explain them to you.

[stuxnet79]

Relationships, healthy ones anyway, are a two way street & need to be nurtured. Like OP I realized over time that most people are lazy and expect a lot out of their relationships without putting any effort in. I like the way OP put it as them being "passive" passengers in the whole relationship journey. It can make for some very exhausting interactions if the bulk of your relationships are like this.

There is a cultural aspect to this. In my opinion American culture because it is so individualistic and market-driven encourages transactional, superficial relationships.

OP's approach might not be palatable to everyone but really any tactic that allows you to filter these people out is going to lead to more satisfying relationships. Just my 2 cents.

[npodbielski]

On the other hand maybe OP filtered people to group that like that kind of feedback in some way So maybe it did work ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

[npodbielski]

I do not know... I would probably never do that at all. Seems calculated and cold. Well I am not an expert in human connections also it may vary from country to country. But where I live you may have better results by connecting to people that have similar interests whatever it may be:

-you like soccer? Watch the game with some people.

-you lime playing basketball? Probably there is some group of people you can join in your city.

-do you like old cars? Probably there are some events you can drive to and show whatever you have in your garage.

-do you like W40K or MTG? Probably there is some local club somewhere? etc.

-if you have kids you just talk to people that have their kids in the same school/preschool/class because it makes it easier

-or if you like just to have a chat start attending local pub of your choice and have a chat to other regulars

This is the usual way of dealing with making friends where I live. But I am bit terrible at making new friends. I have just like 5 friends for +15 years.