[telemachos]

I also don't know the psych lingo, but I thought right away of the anthropological distinction between cultures of shame[1] (external disapproval from other people) and guilt[2] (internal disapproval from self). On that score, either could work: shame is certainly appropriate here since devs shame each other all the time.

[1]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shame_society

[2]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Guilt_society

[nostrademons]

Interesting. The anthropological and psychological definitions aren't really at odds with each other. When you face primarily external disapproval, it's natural to feel "I am bad", because people's outside opinions are not something you can control. When you face internal disapproval, the natural response is "I did something bad", because you know your own reasoning, you have control over it, and you can resolve to do better next time. Same basic principle as "growth mindset vs. fixed mindset". [1]

I'd argue that if devs shame each other all the time, something about your culture is broken. Why? Because the normal response to shame is to want to hide it. You see that in the description of shame vs. guilt societies in the links you provided, where "Shame cultures are typically based on the concepts of pride and honour, and appearances are what counts, as opposed to individual conscience in guilt cultures." Shame is positively correlated with depression, addiction, violence, aggression, bullying, and all sorts of other nasty stuff; guilt is inversely correlated with all of them. [2]

[1] http://mindsetonline.com/whatisit/about/

[2] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=psN1DORYYV0#t=840