This isn't something new. When I was a teenager there was a whole load of pre-social-network blogging platforms, then along came Myspace, then Bebo, then Facebook. Everybody spent hours every night on MSN messenger.
The aspects that I use facebook for most - keeping in touch with fairly widely spread social groups - are not really relevant to a 13 year old. I don't think I'd have needed anything as complex as Facebook when I was 13. 13 year olds like to message each other, be it via SMS, IM or some social networking platform du-jour. Their messages are disposable nonsense that don't really need anything like the complexity of Facebook.
Exactly, its like saying teenagers don't use email. Everyone they care about is close by, you want to keep in close contact. Once you get past college many of your friends are very distant and you need slow asynchronous methods to keep in touch. Both my age friends from college and the next generation I met volunteering at a local university use Facebook for that exact reason.
Odd because the growth of Instagram would suggest 13 year olds also like to comment in a way that is not disposable.
It's almost like 13 year olds are people too and don't operate as one homogenous block. I really think it would be better for everyone to stop pretending that they understand what EVERY 13 year old needs, wants or does.
Once upon a time, Facebook was a quasi dating site with photos and commenting restricted to a person's sphere of influence. Today, Facebook is an advertising platform.
There's a meta conversation to be had here about how this 13-year old girl had a well written op-ed piece posted on Mashable. Her bio there links to hellogiggles[1] where she is apparently a regular contributer. Arguably not the most prestigious publications nor the best writing, but I am still super impressed with her work.
EDIT: My overly clever pithiness that doesn't add to the discussion stems from having seen too many similar posts for every social network or mobile app since the early 2000s. Any service that relies heavily on everyone buying in will eventually lose steam, in part for cultural reasons[1] and also because other companies find areas where they can improve and desires that hadn't been tapped yet.
So, for a big social network to survive for decades and become an entrenched part of everyone's lives, it has to become like infrastructure. I suppose one way to do that is to continually buy new hot companies, as Facebook did to Instagram. Instagram too shall pass.
But when I read the headline, I did wish her friends were just finding new interests, and the new interests were taking too much time and leaving none to spend on FB.
[1] Imagine that Seinfeld was still being produced to this day.
I've been on Internet based social networks since about 1990 when one could actually keep up with EVERY post on usenet. Fact is, every identifiable social network has a distinct lifespan and will evaporate - Facebook being no exception, and now would be a good time to sell FB stocks if you have them.
I'm 30. All my friends use facebook and it's been very hard for me to leave. I have left though and literally have lost contact with people merely because they always forget to invite me to things, and we've gone our separate ways. When I joined The Facebook, it was just a fun place for college kids. When I left it was a mega evil empire where you could lose your job, be put in prison, get lectures from concerned parents, and upset people. That's not fun, so I've logged off forever now.
If you are indeed 30 then you should know that Facebook isn't to blame because your country has screwed up privacy laws or because you don't know how to send posts to specific people.
Now, when we are old enough to get Facebook, we don’t want it. By the time we could have Facebooks, we were already obsessed with Instagram. Facebook was just this thing all our parents seemed to have.
There's a lot of unintentional irony in that statement.
This, along with "I put it on my Facebook" and even "Do you have Facebook?" bother me every time I hear them. Unfortunately, this usage seems to be gaining momentum even outside colloquial conversation--I cringed when I first saw "Your Firefox is up to date".
While on the surface it's just a peculiarity, I think there's also an aspect of this sort of usage that masks the very notion of how things work. It subtly leads one to feel more that these are personalized, bespoke services rather than massive projects.
I generally try to take a descriptivist approach to language usage, but this one makes me cringe a little every time.
Like it or not, language is always evolving. Someone older than you was annoyed by your teenage vernacular as well.
Writing "account" after everything is kind of silly when I think about it. These aren't banks or wholesale vendors. I'm not sure what my Instagram "account" involves, it's just file storage. After all, we all understand what they mean by "I got an instagram," and it seems like English is always leaning towards function over form.
I think it's owned by, and integrated with partially. I'm pretty sure Facebook saw this coming (kids parents having Facebook, so kids no longer thinking it was cool), and that's why they jumped on the sale of insta.
Yep, and most kids don't realize that Instagram is owned by Facebook. It seems these days Instagram and Kik are the big things. (I teach middle school children).
Well this was obvious. When Facebook started, your parents, and grandparents had no idea what it was. And therefore it was interesting. Now, it's like a perfunctory listing of every human you know, including family members. It's like a phonebook. Employers look at it. Your Mom sees it. Is that fun? No, it's just mundane. Teenagers today see their parents using it all the time and think, well, what can I do on there that's fun? Ya.. Tell my grandma I did well in math class. Whupeee.
When we 30 somethings were young, our rents knew nothing of what we did online. And isn't that what we liked about it, at least in part?
Facebook is also a big source of bullying in middle
school. Kids might comment something mean on a photo of
you, or message you mean things. This isn’t Facebook's
fault, but again, it does happen there. If my mom heard I
was getting bullied on Facebook, she would tell me to
quit right away.
What’s silly is the parent’s (hypothetical) reaction. It’s as if they would take a kid out of school for being bullied in class, instead of trying to solve the actual problem.
I'm no Facebook fanboy, but to the criticism about what happens when your friends share incriminating posts, I exasperatedly say: quit complaining and learn to use your privacy and sharing settings.
The issue of bullying is a serious and valid criticism though. I'm glad social networks weren't a thing when I was a teenager.
Amusingly, Facebook is primed to be disrupted by a college social network.
College is a high density social time in your life, and you're making a ton of new friends; those attributes among others make it ideal to escape the Facebook network effect.
No teenager really wants to hang out on the same social network as their parents.
This is true of my niece and her friends. When she was 11 and early 12, she was kinda obsessed with facebook, mainly because it was forbidden. But, now that she can get on it, she doesn't care much. Instagram, Snapchat, and sms are the way they all communicate. She thinks about getting a facebook account just to talk to the adult relatives that she likes and so she can annoy her mum with silly pics, but that's essentially putting facebook in the old people camp. And, knowing her laziness, I think in the end she probably won't even bother with it.
I've always felt that facebook was a better contacts management system than what came before, the "social" bit e.g. snooping on other peoples lives was just a really good way of keeping you engaged because it didn't exist before in such an accessible way.
I kind of wonder though whether we won't see a kind of craigslist aftermath effect, where craigslist comes along and provides a service which everyone wanted and then other startups choose particular niches and attempt to do them better.
Once you start to have a wider social network and meet new people (i.e., when multiple middle schools feed into a single high school, you can drive and develop friendships with people in other districts), email-like messaging by real name because a killer app and Facebook dominates.
I could not imagine, for example, navigating the landscape of my new college class of '17 online on a pseudonymous service like Instagram. Facebook is perfect for this.
I only use Facebook to message other people and nothing else. Didn't look at all the other stuff (games and all that crap) for years. Also my usage of FB has declined rapidly lately. Mostly I and my buddies use better services for just messaging.
but: for me IRC is still around and never gets old. None of these fancy new social whatever stuff will beat it.
While I still have my facebook account, I've completely stopped posting updates. The number one reason is my dad and auties and uncles turn every post I make into a family conversation and theres nothing lamer than having your party photos discussed by your parents
[+] [-] leoedin|12 years ago|reply
The aspects that I use facebook for most - keeping in touch with fairly widely spread social groups - are not really relevant to a 13 year old. I don't think I'd have needed anything as complex as Facebook when I was 13. 13 year olds like to message each other, be it via SMS, IM or some social networking platform du-jour. Their messages are disposable nonsense that don't really need anything like the complexity of Facebook.
[+] [-] coldcode|12 years ago|reply
[+] [-] threeseed|12 years ago|reply
It's almost like 13 year olds are people too and don't operate as one homogenous block. I really think it would be better for everyone to stop pretending that they understand what EVERY 13 year old needs, wants or does.
[+] [-] mdellabitta|12 years ago|reply
[+] [-] Dewie|12 years ago|reply
Like most Facebook status updates? :)
[+] [-] zooka2|12 years ago|reply
[+] [-] nwzpaperman|12 years ago|reply
The end.
[+] [-] holyjaw|12 years ago|reply
[1]: http://hellogiggles.com/author/ruby-karp
[+] [-] beloch|12 years ago|reply
[+] [-] dictum|12 years ago|reply
EDIT: My overly clever pithiness that doesn't add to the discussion stems from having seen too many similar posts for every social network or mobile app since the early 2000s. Any service that relies heavily on everyone buying in will eventually lose steam, in part for cultural reasons[1] and also because other companies find areas where they can improve and desires that hadn't been tapped yet.
So, for a big social network to survive for decades and become an entrenched part of everyone's lives, it has to become like infrastructure. I suppose one way to do that is to continually buy new hot companies, as Facebook did to Instagram. Instagram too shall pass.
But when I read the headline, I did wish her friends were just finding new interests, and the new interests were taking too much time and leaving none to spend on FB.
[1] Imagine that Seinfeld was still being produced to this day.
[+] [-] EliRivers|12 years ago|reply
Or the Simpsons! That would have stopped being funny in the nineties and now it'd be wheeled out each week just begging to be put of its misery.
[+] [-] coldtea|12 years ago|reply
I don't get the obsession with Seinfeld. It wasn't funny even in it's day.
[+] [-] ctdonath|12 years ago|reply
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[+] [-] minimaxir|12 years ago|reply
There's a lot of unintentional irony in that statement.
[+] [-] EliRivers|12 years ago|reply
I love Facebook, really I do... I think it's a great idea for a website, and I wish Facebook the best of luck.
Utterly dismissive. Facebook is some kind of niche website for grandparents.
[+] [-] cko|12 years ago|reply
Were her verb tenses all mixed up? English is my primary language and I can't even really tell.
[+] [-] unknown|12 years ago|reply
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[+] [-] jff|12 years ago|reply
"Ten movies streaming across that, that Internet, and what happens to your own personal Internet? I just the other day got… an Internet"
[+] [-] discostrings|12 years ago|reply
While on the surface it's just a peculiarity, I think there's also an aspect of this sort of usage that masks the very notion of how things work. It subtly leads one to feel more that these are personalized, bespoke services rather than massive projects.
I generally try to take a descriptivist approach to language usage, but this one makes me cringe a little every time.
[+] [-] joonix|12 years ago|reply
Writing "account" after everything is kind of silly when I think about it. These aren't banks or wholesale vendors. I'm not sure what my Instagram "account" involves, it's just file storage. After all, we all understand what they mean by "I got an instagram," and it seems like English is always leaning towards function over form.
[+] [-] mhurron|12 years ago|reply
But seriously, the internet is not something you just dump things on, it's not a big truck.
[+] [-] jt2190|12 years ago|reply
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[+] [-] Aardwolf|12 years ago|reply
Isn't Instagram part of Facebook?
[+] [-] asperous|12 years ago|reply
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[+] [-] gdilla|12 years ago|reply
When we 30 somethings were young, our rents knew nothing of what we did online. And isn't that what we liked about it, at least in part?
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[+] [-] needacig|12 years ago|reply
The issue of bullying is a serious and valid criticism though. I'm glad social networks weren't a thing when I was a teenager.
[+] [-] pekk|12 years ago|reply
[+] [-] adventured|12 years ago|reply
College is a high density social time in your life, and you're making a ton of new friends; those attributes among others make it ideal to escape the Facebook network effect.
No teenager really wants to hang out on the same social network as their parents.
[+] [-] honestcoyote|12 years ago|reply
[+] [-] dageshi|12 years ago|reply
I kind of wonder though whether we won't see a kind of craigslist aftermath effect, where craigslist comes along and provides a service which everyone wanted and then other startups choose particular niches and attempt to do them better.
[+] [-] superuser2|12 years ago|reply
I could not imagine, for example, navigating the landscape of my new college class of '17 online on a pseudonymous service like Instagram. Facebook is perfect for this.
[+] [-] drill_sarge|12 years ago|reply
but: for me IRC is still around and never gets old. None of these fancy new social whatever stuff will beat it.
[+] [-] bobbles|12 years ago|reply
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[+] [-] threeseed|12 years ago|reply
So by our combined data set I believe we can safely extrapolate that 50% of all 13-year olds across the world use Facebook.
[+] [-] hbnyc|12 years ago|reply