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tks2103 | 12 years ago

Shame is a pretty poor incentive or disincentive for anything. It actively prevents connections between people.

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brianpgordon|12 years ago

I know that whenever I'm embarrassed in conversation by my lack of knowledge about something, it drives me to learn everything I can about it.

philbarr|12 years ago

...and you won't be able to learn anything from the people around you because they don't want to tell you anything because you're the smart arse that grimaces every time they get something slightly wrong.

cail|12 years ago

You seem to be making the erroneous assumption that everyone is motivated in the same way as you. Personally, if someone embarrasses me in a conversation in this way I'm going to feel like an idiot and resent them for making me feel that way. When this kind of thing happens it feels to me like they'd rather have someone to laugh at and feel superior to than help that person better their skills. I don't have much respect for that.

If they point me in the direction of some resources or help me learn it I'm going to respect them more because it makes it clear they care about their craft. They don't feel the need to feel superior, they'd rather have a peer on their level.

My point really is just that different people are motivated in different ways and what may motivate you has the opposite effect on others.

spuz|12 years ago

You'd learn a lot more and more quickly by having a conversation with those that know more than you do.