[Spittie]

Hey, I feel you. I'm not Asian, but I'm introvert. I'm a tad younger, at 20 years old. I'm also unemployed (yay!).

Anyway, I've never have tons of friends, but after finishing high school, I've cut almost every relations that I've had with others (on one side, I've never had a friendship outside school, on the other side, it's my fault since I'm not good at maintaining relations).

So you could say that I'm currently in a similar situation to you. I don't have much to say but the usual suggestions that everyone will give you, since really isn't much to say.

If you have any hobby, it might be worth searching for local shops or local meetups for it. If you like card games and/or board games, you'll always find some shop in a city. If you like sports, join a local club, it's usually a decent way to make friends. Conventions seems to be rather frequent in america, so you can try and go to those.

Getting friends in a skill that you have to develop over time. Many, many people just take it for granted, since most are born with it, but for some it takes years to master.

When you meed people, try to not be shy. Talk, look at them and not elsewhere/the floor, don't cross your arm. In short, watch your body language.

If you have nothing to say, ask them about themself. Most people just love to talk about themself. Don't be shy to ask, at worst they'll just shrug it off and switch the arguments to something else.

Try to remember their names, it's a nice thing that most people will appreciate. Also, after you've made a bit of conversation and you like them, try to maintain that relations. Ask them a contact, and contact them from time to time (just don't be overwhelming, otherwise you'll look like a creep). If they're interested, you get someone to talk, otherwise it's not hard for them to not reply.

Someone is suggesting you to get a dog, and I can say that it's a wonderful way to have random small talks (especially if you have some kind of rare dog). But remember that getting a dog is not something you can do lighthearted, it will take tons of efforts.

As for your English, just try to speak with other people, most will not mind your bad english as long as it's not painful to understand (and given how you write, I don't think it is). And you'll get better over time.

That's mostly what it comes to my mind. It might work or not, but it's the usual suggestions you'll read over the internet. I can say that I'm a better listener after following those, but my introversion is still blocking me from joining a club (but I've started running, maybe I'll get to know someone with it?).

If you want to talk, my email is in my profile page. I can't do much (especially since there is an ocean between us), but I find that just writing something helps a lot to get your ideas clear.

[akavel]

Also, regarding English, there's some chance you could find people learning your native language who'd love to have a conversation with a native-speaker; in my city we have such weekly meetings organized in some café. Similarly, we do also have some websites where people are offering "help in exchange for help", you might again find someone wanting to practice your language in exchange for e.g. teaching/talking with you in English; or as you you're firstly into relations at all, you could just find someone you could help in something, and you can also "hide" it behind a request that he/she helps you in something else (again, could be just learning English).

[purringmeow]

Sorry if that's not the right place, but I have a similar problem.

I am a 1st year CS student and I can't find a coding buddy. By that I mean someone to study new technologies with, to work on learning-focused projects together and exchange ideas. Most of my schoolmates are overwhelmed with classes and don't have time or desire for partnering up.

So, HN, if you are up for some node.js/javascript or C++ learning, it would be awesome to get in touch. I've even posted a thread[1] on reddit, but so far no luck.

[1] http://www.reddit.com/r/ProgrammingBuddies/comments/27zn0i/n...

[alandarev]

Apologies for offtopic.

purringmeow, sent you an email. I am as well looking for a node.js buddy.

[purringmeow]

Wow, I got so many messages on reddit and email! Thanks a lot!