[hnha]

oh, what a fruitful discussion this might trigger..

What I don't get is how they constantly counter-act the common rules on how to deal with trolls or stalkers. It really feels like they are bathing in the outrage, not interested in actually solving it. And that's one reason why I sadly don't feel any sympathy but rather understand the vocal (non socio-/psychopath) critics.

There is no fair discussion so I wish the media would simply stop with their help on filling the fire...

Disclaimer: Middle class white male who once got online death threats after banning a sociopath from a site of his. I discussed them privately, did not give any reaction to the freak apart from quickly banning the new accounts and where possible delete the verbal abuse. It took several weeks but ultimately it just got quite and we all live happily ever after.

[archagon]

Give the Isometric podcast #18 a listen (http://5by5.tv/isometric/18). It might change your mind.

Also this: http://seriouspony.com/trouble-at-the-koolaid-point

Zoe Quinn tweeted today: "couldn't you just fucking not play my games. Fucking boycott me, don't work with me, just leave my dad alone". She got a dead squirrel in her mailbox a few days ago. Remember: she made a free indie game about depression and had a messy breakup with an ex. This is literally all she did. This type of reaction is no longer uncommon.

These women are really, actually suffering.

[idlewords]

The article is about a speaker who has received numerous death threats declining to appear in front of an audience after the police said they would not turn away people carrying firearms.

In my eyes, this is a simple issue of personal safety. I would not speak under those conditions and I doubt you would either.

[Methusalah]

There's a massive difference between being harassed by a single individual who doesn't really know who you are and a massive group of people who know everything about you.

[Ntrails]

The common rule on how to deal with stalkers is call the police.

When you got abusive messages it was one person, marginalised and removed from a community. I assure you these people get plenty of reaction by showing their messages to their community. They will not go away if ignored.

[ben0x539]

The common rules on how to deal with trolls or stalkers work a lot better if you're the middle class white male who got online death threats once in his life, and not the women who get them every day backed by an organized harassment campaign.

I'm not sure what kind of fair discussion you expect here.

[ceejayoz]

> What I don't get is how they constantly counter-act the common rules on how to deal with trolls or stalkers.

"Common rules" along the lines of "just ignore it" tend to make it easy to pretend such things aren't happening and ignore those calling it a serious issue.

[chippy]

I believe the "common rules" in this case are not "just ignore it" but rather: Take legal advice. Contact the police.

They would probably say "don't talk to the press about it, don't give the attacker more fuel".

In the realm of internet trolls, the classic rule is "don't feed the troll". but an internet troll doesn't make death threats...

[chaostheory]

> Middle class white male who once got online death threats after banning a sociopath from a site of his.

The problem is that you have a very narrow point of view. You're also limiting your viewpoint to just equality as opposed to going beyond it to ask 'what is fair?'.

http://jezebel.com/louis-c-k-on-men-we-re-the-no-1-cause-of-...

"I've read some blogs during this whole thing that have made me enlightened to things I didn't know. This woman said how rape is something that polices women's lives. They have a narrow corridor. They can't go out late, they can't go to certain neighborhoods, they can't get a certain way, because they might get-That's part of me now that wasn't before."

"Halfway through the new special, C.K. starts talking about how dating is an act of bravery for all involved. “The male courage, traditionally speaking, is that he decided to ask” a woman out. (Note the careful caveat, 'traditionally speaking.') And if the woman says yes, 'that’s her courage.' That kind of courage, he says, is beyond his imagining. 'How do women still go out with guys, when you consider that there is no greater threat to women than men? We’re the number one threat to women! Globally and historically, we’re the number one cause of injury and mayhem to women.' A moment later he adds, speaking for all men, 'You know what our number one threat is? Heart disease.'"

[retrocombine]

Speaking out against being harassed is not "bathing in the outrage". You sound completely biased, as well. I don't trust you as a neutral observer.

[chippy]

I think there's a difference about speaking out about harassment in general and going against the recommendations of the police who should be dealing with a specific threat. I agree though, it's certainly not "bathing in the outrage" at all.

Perhaps the added attention to a cause, perhaps the added news coverage is worth going against the advice of professionals when it comes to direct threats to the safety of oneself? Or perhaps the institutions and individuals there to deal with such threats are not doing their job properly? Or perhaps the level of fear of online threats is so great that no local, personal support is enough?

I don't know the answers not being in that situation. I can imagine it being very scary though. I'd want to trust someone, anyone, at the very least. Perhaps online social networks can give that level of reassurance for some, for those who depend on them?

[ijk]

> What I don't get is how they constantly counter-act the common rules on how to deal with trolls or stalkers.

Actually, the general advice is to tell everyone:

> Tell Everyone

> Report the incident to law enforcement. Notify the Commonwealth's Attorney and ask for help from your local victim/witness program. Let them know that you are afraid. Give friends, co-workers, and neighbors a description of the stalker. Ask them to document anything they see and record the time of the occurrence.

https://www.dcjs.virginia.gov/victims/documents/stalking.pdf

[_wdh]

You don't solve problems by ignoring them and hoping that they go away, you have to expose and stop it before it gets worse or they'll just move onto the next person.

[smackfu]

Funny how the default male response to a women's problem is almost always, "I will tell you a better way to handle this." Almost a cliché at this point.

[teamhappy]

Im sorry but that's just wrong. Let's change "default male position" and "almost always" to "feels like it after scrolling though this thread". I also think you confuse offering a second opinion with making an absolute statement. So "I will tell you a better way to handle this" becomes "I think this is a better way to handle this". Sound a lot better, doesn't it?

I don't want to put words in your mouth but I also think you're implying that the male in your example believes his way is better because he's a man and therefore smarter and all that nonsense. That's just unfair. The irony in phrasing it like that given the context is quite obvious though.

[chippy]

I don't think that is the default male response at all. I am male and that is not my response.

[hnha]

Sorry for trying to help?! I did not realise that offering advice from personal experience of receiving online death threats (and what I thought was common professional advice from police and law enforcement) was sexist. No more sympathy from me.

[intortus]

Also funny how that "better way to handle this" is "be quiet and go away."

[anonymousab]

The default netizen position has always been "don't feed the trolls".