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jneen | 11 years ago

As someone who has tried to document and report shitty behavior, it's important to keep in mind how risky that is.

Here are a few patterns I've observed:

pattern (a) MAN: does shitty thing; WOMAN: hey please stop; WOMAN's performance review: "has conflicts with MAN"

pattern (b) MAN: does shitty thing; WOMAN: reports shitty thing; MANAGER: oh MAN is a nice guy, why don't you try working it out yourself

pattern (c) MAN: does shitty thing; WOMAN: does nothing because she actually reports to MAN

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bluecalm|11 years ago

This happens in hierarchies regardless of genders. Anyone bullied in school or a workplace can tell you this. You would need to measure if it in fact happens more often if it's a woman being a victim which is very difficult as most of those situations are not reported by neither gender.

jneen|11 years ago

See, I actually know it has to do with gender because I used to have a beard. I got treated very differently back then.

mrits|11 years ago

Why would you report shitty behavior? Is that against some sort of code of conduct where you work?

kleer001|11 years ago

fair enough, this is especially bad in the milirary... shudder